How do you find your balance in life?
In my podcast I always ask my guests, ‘what is the lesson that took you the longest to learn?’ I feel that one of my answer to that question would be finding balance. I’ve been thinking a lot about balance and I feel that I’m moving toward the direction that finding balance insinuates that once you get there, you’ve accomplished something, as if it’s some sort of destination. I think as is anything in life, our paths are always a journey. Therefore, this destination of balance is something potentially unreachable and maybe even a waste of time. I’d rather see it as something that is in my periphery, and I’m aware of. I like it. I might even gravitate toward it, but it’s not something I necessarily strive for, otherwise I lose focus on all the other blessings in my life, and potentially, will be that much more blind-sided when life inevitably gets in the way.
How do you champion your flaws?
By talking about them! By bringing them up. By sharing experiences of where i’ve wronged people, or have hurt people, or myself. Champion Flaws is about awareness. I think we have a poor relationship with the word flaw, as if to have one, means that we are less of a human being. In fact, that couldn’t be further from the truth. The more flawed we are, the more human we are. But again, awareness is key. For example, one of my flaws is that I tend to over-work. This is learned behavior and has caused me much success but also much grief. So, when I find myself in a space of over-exertion, fatigue, less time with friends and family, and most importantly, less time for ME, I make a point to slot in some type of activity that allows me to step away from the workload. There isn’t much that works but one thing I ALWAYS find time for is art + film. So I slot that in as often as I need in order to function as a human being without hitting total exhaustion.
The lingo is: hi flaw, I see you, you do not define me, but you are a part of me, at times helping, at times hurting. And when you hurt, I need some time away. Awareness. Also, in speaking about our flaws they lose power over us and oftentimes we find ourselves in a community with like-minded, flawed humans. It makes life a tad bit easier.
If you were to give advice to your 10-year-old self what would it be?
You’re not too much. You’re not not enough. Your thinking mind is beautiful. Your kind heart is rare. Your curious disposition is spectacular. Your intuition is your guiding-light. And your empathic disposition is your Core. Not advice. You can’t advise someone, really. You can only help them see their gifts. Those were mine. Are mine. And I wish I had heard that more often. I didn’t. So I say that to myself now but it took me a long time to get here.
How do you stand in your power?
By Telling My Story. By Speaking My Truth. By Championing My Flaws. And by Leading with Love. Always Love. Love is power. So stand in a space of Love.
What are Vibes to you?
Energy! I base all of my personal decisions off of energy. Whether it’s choosing a job, a friend, a partner, walking down a certain street, booking travel, etc. It’s all about energy. Which I suppose stems in hearing and listening to your intuition. If you’re connected and/or attuned to the vibes around you, you’re prone to make better decisions. You’re also prone to give off better vibes, too.
How do you Get Your Vibes??
I believe they exist in all of us, it’s all about fine-tuning. When I need to tap into my energy source and/or my intuition, I use a couple techniques to get myself aligned with my Core. Writing has always been an incredible practice for me. I call it free therapy. Walking (without music, podcast, phone conversation) is also incredibly grounding. I can’t run at the moment because of my Recovery process, but long runs used to clear my energetic pathways and it would give way to ideas, thoughts, solutions, etc. Yoga has stepped into that space. Museums + Art. Taking quiet time to observe something moves the energetic fields, stimulating creativity, solutions, etc. Same with films. They move me. Creating a new vibe. It’s all about fluidity. All of these are slow movements without heavy exertion or forceful creativity. It’s just opening space to accept what’s there.
Where can we connect with you?
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